Mindfulness: No More “Why Did I Just…” Moments


Please tell me I’m not the only person who has eaten half bag of trail mix or half dozen (or more!) mini Reese’s cups and then stop and say “Why did I just do that???”  Can anybody relate??  It’s like I lose my mind for a minute only to realize (too late!) that I just made a poor choice!




Let’s start with a dictionary.com definition:  “a technique in which one focuses one’s full attention only on the present, experiencing thoughts, feelings, and sensations but not judging them.”  

So first of all, WHEN do we have time to focus full attention only on the present???  Aren’t we usually doing 3 things or more at once?  

AND, what’s this “not judging” business?  I’m bad or a cheater if I eat half bag of M&Ms right??  I need to punish myself.  I need to verbally beat myself up.  

I’d like to propose that we can begin to take some steps towards mindfulness to reduce (and eventually rid ourselves of) “Why did I just….” moments!

I find that I have these out-of-control, mindless  moments most often when I’m tired, stressed, overwhelmed.  I’ve had it.  I’m over it.  I have no willpower or self-control left.  My tank is empty, and I think my tummy is too!  So I go on a spree before I realize what I’ve done.  




I believe that when we slow down, even a little, and take care of a few areas of our lives, we become more mindful.  It’s what we do in the other 23 hours and 55 minutes of our day that will save us from ourselves in those 5 minutes of losing our minds.  And it boils down to taking care of ourselves.  

Earlier this week I posted a picture of me getting a mani/pedi while reading a book and said that this is something that helps me stay mindful.  Now, how is that?  Those things (even though that mani/pedi was the first one I’d had in 2 months) provide some relaxation.  I took about an hour out of my day for some self-care.  I have a half marathon on Saturday.  I had PMS.  I was starting to feel a little overwhelmed with a few things.  I needed to take care of me.

Girls, it’s okay to take care of yourself.  You are better for everyone when you take a little time for you.  Because this is how it goes otherwise…..back to our scenario of “Why did I just do that?”  If one of those moments happen, then it leads to feeling bad about yourself, the negative chatter in your mind, and it all spirals out of control.  

So a key thing to help you stay mindful is self care.  It could be in the form of mani/pedi, a massage, bubble bath.  Whatever says “pamper me” to you.  

As I mentioned, when I’m tired it’s easier for me to have those out-of-control moments.  I think I need “fuel” and not in the form of lean protein or my superfood shake.  It’s usually in the form of chocolate!

When we’re well-rested and feeding our bodies proper fuel, it’s easier for us to practice mindfulness.  We have energy.  We’re not dragging in the mid-afternoon grabbing for a quick pick-me-up.  

Here’s the thing, when we have more energy and mental focus, we can Experience the signals we’re getting from our bodies and then properly Assess them as to whether to Take action.  

We’ll call it the EAT strategy 😉 When we begin to condition ourselves to slow down in other areas….taking the 5 minutes for quiet time, a bubble bath after the kids go to bed, a 10 minute walk before everyone else wakes up, scheduling an hour once a month for a mani/pedi….we can slow down in response to our hunger and craving signals and begin to assess what, if any, action we need to take to satisfy that urge.  

It’s a practice.  I still have moments.  In fact, a common phrase I use is “I need a moment”.  My son knows it’s like a “mom time out”.  I need to get my head right and my attitude right before I respond to anything or anyone.  

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Additionally, I have a free group starting on Monday April 11.  We’ll be talking about mindfulness and a whole lot more as it relates to your faith and fitness journey.  If you need some support and encouragement, reach out to me.  I’d love to have you in the group!  


I wanna hear from you….

When do you feel most out of control?  

Do you have a key word or phrase that lets your family know you “need a moment”?

How do you stay mindful?

Dealing with Discouragement: How to Break Free From the Funk



We’re entering Easter week.  Palm Sunday seemed like the day of celebration but we know the dark days that followed, AND we also know the end of the story.  Nevertheless, there were dark days.  There were days of sadness and despair.  There was quiet.  We know the end of the story, but on that first Good Friday, they didn’t know the end of the story.  They knew the prophecies, but were they true?  


We have those days, those times in our lives. We think it’s all good, then……  We seem to hit the lowest of lows.  Everything is dark.  There is quiet.  This wasn’t how we imagined life.  Nothing is as it should be….or so we think.  


How do we deal with the down days?  The dark periods in our marriage?  The seasons when we think our children have turned their backs on everything we’ve raised them to know and be?  The days when we look in the mirror and we’re disgusted with what we see on the outside not to mention the secrets we hold on the inside?   


This being primarily a fitness blog, how can we relate Easter, the despair of Good Friday, and the dark days in the tomb, to our battles in this area of our lives?


Girls, our struggles with weight and body image can bury us.  I know the feelings.  I’ve been there.  These struggles can leave us feeling completely and utterly hopeless and discouraged.  We beat ourselves up for bad choices or workouts missed.  We convince ourselves that we’ll never be able to change,  and thus we resign ourselves to a life lived in a “funk”, stuck, no way out.  We resolve that we’ll never feel comfortable in our own skin.  We’ll never look in the mirror and believe that He was really talking about us when He said you are “fearfully and wonderfully made”.


Do you know what I’m talking about?  Have you been there?  Are you there now?  Living in that state of discouragement?  In a funk?  Maybe feeling like the grave will never open and the chains will never break?


Freedom?  What’s that?  Oh how I long for it, but I’ll never experience it in this area of my life.  


But I’m here to tell you that you don’t have to live in discouragement.  You don’t have to feel stuck in this funk.  You don’t have to stay bound by the idea that nothing will change and that you’ll never be good enough.  You can change.  There is hope.  No, it’s not found is some special diet or supplement.  It’s not found in a specific exercise routine.  It’s not in a product or even an idea.  


The freedom comes when we get our minds right.  When we figure out why we’re doing this.  It comes when we stop listening to the clamoring voices telling us about quick fixes or how we’ll never win this battle.  Freedom comes when we start listening to the truth about who we are and find our unique fit.   


So back to Easter.  I don’t know your story.  I don’t know if you’re experiencing your darkest day or if you’re in the waiting, but I do know the end of the story.  It ends with victory.  It ends with new life.  It ends with freedom.  Are you ready to open that chapter and start living it?  Maybe you say “YES!” but you’re not sure how to move past this moment.  Contact me.  Together we can find your fit, and you can start living free!


Tell me….

What are your plans for Easter?

Is it Spring Break for you?  Going anywhere?

Your Motivation Can Be Found in Your Why


Let’s face it….it’s hard to do the right thing.  It’s hard to eat right.  It’s hard to exercise.  It’s hard to refrain from gossip.  It’s hard to smile and wave at the driver who cuts you off.  It’s hard to save money.  Life can just be hard sometimes.  Even a lot of the time.  We all have our areas of struggle and weakness.  Given that this is primarily a health and fitness blog, I’m going to focus on that part in the “life is hard” scenario.  

Why should I get up 15-30 minutes early so I can work out?  Why should I pass on a second helping?  Why should I strength train?  Why should I limit my sugar intake?  


Well, I don’t know, but in the question lies the answer.  The answer is “Why”.  It’s YOUR “Why”.

You see, all these things that are hard….. They aren’t necessarily things we HAVE to do.  I mean, you don’t HAVE to exercise.  You don’t HAVE to skip dessert.  You don’t HAVE to save money.  You don’t HAVE to be nice.  

But we want to do those things.  We desire to be fit and healthy.  We want to have enough money.  We want to be nice.  

So back to your health and fitness.  The key to doing these things and sticking to them is finding your WHY as it relates to that area in your life.  


WHY do you want to be fit and healthy?

WHY do you want to exercise?

WHY do you want to limit sugar intake?


You may have a history of illness in your family.  You may have small children you want to be able to play with.  You may currently have a health issue that needs to get in check.  You may have a wedding coming up.  


I don’t know what it is for you, but until you figure out your WHY, you won’t stick to the plan long term.  You won’t develop a healthy sustainable lifestyle.  


On my next blog post, we’ll talk a bit more about the HOW to of a fit and healthy lifestyle, but until then…..


WHY do you want to be fit and healthy?  

WHY do you want to be free from outside noises and distractions in this area of your life?